Владимир Светлов – The Path to Yourself, or the Road to Happiness: First Steps (страница 6)

The key to success is a well-rounded education. By the age of 12, a person should acquire 64 types of skills, abilities, and knowledge, which are then, as they mature, refined to the level of mastery, becoming an art. A person cannot be equally skilled in all 64 directions. But each has a unique set of talents. For some, it is given as a gift from above; others develop it through aspiration and persistent effort.

Talents and divine gifts are necessary for human development in all spheres of life: from building houses to creating a harmonious family. Everyone must possess the skills, abilities, and knowledge to cope with life's trials and be ready for new challenges. Love also requires care and nurturing to grow and become stronger.

By mastering the 64 arts, developing one's talents and skills, a person becomes harmonious and happy, capable of achieving their goals and dreams. Learning the art of negotiation, the art of seduction, developing charisma—all of this is essential for the perfection of the individual. And a person must possess all of this. One doesn't have to be perfect by the age of 12, because life itself will refine the person. If a person possesses these qualities, they are independent and do not need the state for their existence. They are their own state, their own sovereign. In any conditions, they will find their place because they can do anything.

Each stage of life requires its own skills, abilities, and knowledge, which help a person move towards their dream. But on the path to success, it is also necessary to possess qualities that never lose their relevance, such as decisiveness, the ability to win, and the art of negotiation. Skills that were in demand at one stage may lose their significance at the next level of development. For example, if a person has become a master at creating unique shoes, further development will require new skills, such as management, marketing, and sales. Therefore, achieving set goals requires constant development and learning. Constant improvement.

Ordinary people often get fixated on their current knowledge and skills, refusing to acknowledge the need for constant development. They may believe they already know everything they need and deny the necessity for change. However, true success comes to those who are ready to constantly learn and evolve, not to those who stand still and see no need for transformation. Only a constant striving for perfection and a readiness for change enable a person to achieve their goals and realize the dream of a lifetime.

In the pursuit of development and self-improvement, we often encounter difficulties and doubts. However, it's important to remember that these difficulties are part of the process; they serve as stepping stones for personal growth. Every person possesses unique skills and abilities that help them overcome obstacles and achieve their goals. The ability to develop and improve is the key to success in life. A person striving for development is always in a state of constant growth. This process is not always easy; sometimes we face depressive states and a sense of hitting rock bottom. However, these difficulties only strengthen our will and our ability to overcome obstacles.

To remain at the peak of our development, we must constantly learn and apply the acquired knowledge in real life. Realizing that we don't know or can't do something is very useful because it gives us the opportunity to develop and learn something new. The results of our work help us reach new heights and develop the skills to win, believe in ourselves, and achieve success.

It's important to remember that development and self-improvement is a long and difficult journey. But if we follow our dreams and work on ourselves with determination, we will reach new heights and turn our dreams into reality. On our path to the dream, every step and every overcoming is a stepping stone of growth. The results we achieve not only speak of our ability to win but also strengthen our belief in ourselves. Experience, money, and status are new states we conquer on our path. And they become part of our resource potential.

But belief in oneself cannot be based solely on emotions, which quickly run out. Faith must be based on solid results and achievements. When we have results, we do not need the approval of others or to demonstrate our self-importance. The results speak for themselves, and on this foundation, we can stand firmly.

The science of winning is, first and foremost, learning to overcome fears, doubts, and one's own ignorance. It is a process in which we constantly develop, learn, and grow. And although this path may be difficult, the results we ultimately achieve will be worth all our efforts. So let's value every step of our growth, despite difficulties and depressive states. Let the results we achieve be a testament to our strength and resilience. And let our faith in ourselves be based on solid achievements, not on fleeting emotions. Ultimately, every victory, every overcoming, and every result is another step toward realizing the dream.

At my "Men's Gatherings," the guys were scared, they doubted, and they pissed themselves. They pissed on themselves, on their neighbor, but they did it. Everything. They won. And they returned home as different men. And it was no longer up to them; they had fallen under the "Uncle's" hand. They had no chance of returning home as they were before: their wives would shame them. There was also no chance to explain, "Everyone there died, I'm the only one left, I came back to you because you are the only one I love. You're the best, you bastard. Why did you send me there?" There was only one chance: to overcome oneself and return home a winner.

Chapter 5. Healthy Indifference

Healthy indifference is detachment from everything in this life. When is a person detached from everything in this life? When they know that everything depends on them. But only a person with results can say that about themselves.

Imagine that someone who has no results also says: "Everything depends on me." I don't believe it. Prove that everything depends on you. What have you done? What can you do? Pull up your pants: that's what you're capable of for now.

A person who has developed healthy indifference has another positive belief: "Why should I worry? Let the sea worry for me." But this belief can be dangerous. For some, it brings laziness along with it. You can be guided by this belief, but only while taking action. That is, you need to act without worrying: let the sea worry.

But many behave differently. Something happens, and they don't understand it, they don't engage. They are "chilled": let the sea worry for me, everything will come by itself. This is how they indulge their laziness, lying on the couch and stroking their fat belly: "Why should I worry? The neighbor will come and make this shelf."

And then one day, such a person comes home from work, and the shelf is indeed done. And he asks his wife:

— Who made it?

— The neighbor made it.

— For free, really?

— No. He said give money, sing some song, or let's have sex.

— Well, you didn't have any money, I didn't give you any.

— No, you didn't.

— So, did you sing?

— What am I, a singer or something?

The neighbor is a champ. He has the skills, abilities, and knowledge. And he had something to worry about, right? She stirred him up. That's what healthy indifference is.

There's another phrase, a trap: "Everyone's alive—so everything's fine."

The house burned down—everyone's alive, so everything's fine. Got fired from work—everyone's alive, so everything's fine. The neighbor came over again and made another shelf—everyone's alive, so everything's fine.

There are beliefs like these that help you avoid getting upset. Once, I was staying overnight at a friend's place. In the morning, the girl's mother called and said: "Your apartment was robbed." She jumped up and started running around the room: "Ahhh! My apartment was robbed!" I said: "Why are you running around? Nothing changes. It's already happened. Your running around won't change anything. Why the fuss?"

Girls are always like that. Broke a nail—that's it, hysterics. But queens never have hysterics. My wife, Angelika, never has hysterics. I might have one occasionally, but she—never.

Here's another phrase for you: "If you are worthy—you will have it." If I believe I deserve something, and I still don't have it, I start to figure it out: in what way am I not worthy? In what aspect of my life do I lack the worthiness, since I don't have it today? That's a healthy attitude toward oneself. Clear and sober.

Sometimes you look: a girl walks by, so dignified, so full of herself. Maybe outwardly she is dignified. But you need to look inside, to see what's hidden there. And there you'll find pitch-black darkness and countless cockroaches. Because otherwise, everything would be different.

If unattractive women get married, and you, being so beautiful, are not married, it means you are not worthy. But in what way exactly are you not worthy? On the surface, everything seems fine. But inside, there's an endless number of issues. However, strangely enough, people don't always strive to notice this. There isn't even a tool for tracking these things. There are no censors because of insufficient knowledge.